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Post by slacker 🐨 on Jan 23, 2020 14:58:16 GMT -5
I'm amazed it took me this long to realize this, but talking with my brother about a friend of mine whom he really doesn't care for made me realize I seem to be the guy who befriends the people that are relatively disliked.
I have multiple friends that, upon reflection, are an "acquired taste". In addition, I have two family members that are not well liked and I'm the only one who routinely tolerates them.
I had a co-worker whom my other co-workers described as "off" and "annoying", yet I consider her a friend and it was me who was consoling her when she had a (IMO justified) meltdown at work.
My brother pointed out that I'm a very tolerant guy, so maybe that's it. Looking back, this is a pattern with me. Not all my friends fall into that category (far from it), but I do have a fair number from various social circles over the decades that fit that pattern.
Anyway, anybody else here a social safe harbor for the universally disliked?
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Post by NoSoapRadio on Jan 23, 2020 15:11:01 GMT -5
I was a Purchasing Agent for 35 years. I had to get along with with some of the most vile creatures to slither out of the ooze. That doesn't mean I liked them -- I just got good a faking it.
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Post by slacker 🐨 on Jan 23, 2020 15:28:06 GMT -5
I thinking I'm good at seeing the good in people that others feel are mostly not likable for one reason or another.
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Post by Mfitz804 on Jan 23, 2020 16:40:00 GMT -5
I am the outcast most of the time.
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Post by Ayns on Jan 23, 2020 18:14:43 GMT -5
Looking back over the last 30 plus years, I think I befriended quite a lot of people that were considered "lame ducks"/ misfits. I've always considered myself an excellent judge of character, although now I'm not so sure ;-)
Even looking back to school, most of my friends were the long haired rock music types, which were pretty much outcasts by choice
I still don't feel part of "the establishment" ;-)
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Post by Leftee on Jan 23, 2020 18:36:05 GMT -5
I am the outcast most of the time. Who needs a hug? |
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Post by Mfitz804 on Jan 23, 2020 18:40:49 GMT -5
I am the outcast most of the time. Who needs a hug? That’s what comfort giraffes are for. |
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Post by Riff Twang on Jan 24, 2020 2:03:25 GMT -5
I too am probably considered quite tolerant, and my first instinct is to be courteous and respectful until such time as I am shown disrespect. In this regard I have probably been friendly to many who would be seen as outsiders or outcasts, or may just rub a lot of people the wrong way.
But please don't allow your comfort giraffe too close to my emotional support thylacine. |
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Post by rickyguitar on Jan 24, 2020 2:39:44 GMT -5
My wife. She had a really big, compassionate heart.
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Post by Ryder on Jan 24, 2020 10:50:03 GMT -5
That’s what comfort giraffes are for. Mike, do you supply comfort giraffes.My giraffe is just downright mean! I was a friend to a guy who has always thought if he did something for you, you owed him forever. Very annoying. He died last October. |
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Post by Leftee on Jan 24, 2020 10:53:23 GMT -5
I tend to draw, and be drawn, to the outcast. They have the same need for connection as the rest of us. They’re mannerisms, etc. make that difficult. And I often find them easy to converse with. Unless they’re narcissistic and do all the talking.
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Post by stratcat ♠ on Jan 24, 2020 10:57:54 GMT -5
I was a manager for Snap On Tools® and repo'd many financed people....I didn't get many Christmas cards from them.  |
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Post by Mfitz804 on Jan 24, 2020 11:21:51 GMT -5
That’s what comfort giraffes are for. Mike, do you supply comfort giraffes.My giraffe is just downright mean! I was a friend to a guy who has always thought if he did something for you, you owed him forever. Very annoying. He died last October. Me and Leftee should start a Comfort Giraffe Training Academy. He'll handle all of the left handed ones, obviously. |
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Post by Taildragger on Jan 24, 2020 11:30:26 GMT -5
Aren't we pretty much all outcasts on this bus?
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Post by K4 on Jan 24, 2020 11:36:30 GMT -5
I've always, since becoming an adult, been the person no-one likes.
I find it makes it easier to not shower for several days....
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Post by pnutz on Jan 24, 2020 15:55:41 GMT -5
"I'm amazed it took me this long to realize this, but talking with my brother about a friend of mine whom he really doesn't care for made me realize I seem to be the guy who befriends the people that are relatively disliked. I have multiple friends that, upon reflection, are an "acquired taste". In addition, I have two family members that are not well liked and I'm the only one who routinely tolerates them. I had a co-worker whom my other co-workers described as "off" and "annoying", yet I consider her a friend and it was me who was consoling her when she had a (IMO justified) meltdown at work. My brother pointed out that I'm a very tolerant guy, so maybe that's it. Looking back, this is a pattern with me. Not all my friends fall into that category (far from it), but I do have a fair number from various social circles over the decades that fit that pattern." Anyway, anybody else here a social safe harbor for the universally disliked?Well, you've tolerated me for about 30 years ... |
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Post by Bbendfender on Jan 25, 2020 13:47:59 GMT -5
A certain guitar tech in the town I used to live in. The dude is a Psyco but I kept on going in to visit him because most everybody in town hated him or at least had bad experiences with him. He would usually force the conversation toward something he could argue about. I don't like to argue but he does. I've stayed out of his store for years at a time but usually go back for a visit. Our last phone call ended with him in a political rage. I hung up on him but still feel sorry from him. He is just an OK guitar and amp tech who relies on one particular other tech friend to bail him out from time to time. I get worked up just typing this.
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Post by Stratluvr on Jan 26, 2020 9:40:32 GMT -5
I prefer to avoid toxic personalities. Once I realize that they are either argumentative or a fun sponge who soaks up the fun out of anything, I stay away from them.
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