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Post by roly on Feb 17, 2024 7:32:53 GMT -5
There's a nice gang of old buggers at the gig who are happy hour regulars.
I would be a happy hour looser.
Not much happens daily to generate things to discuss in my world.
These folks seem to have a limitless source of stuff to discuss every day.
Pretty sure I'm boring.
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Post by Auf Kiltre on Feb 17, 2024 8:58:58 GMT -5
Nah, you're not boring Roly, you're probably just selective about what you're willing to talk about. My observation about "regulars" and bar denizens has been that they can be pretty redundant with their go-to stories, so in a way they're well rehearsed. "Did I tell you about the time that..." "You mean this week, or ever?" 😁
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Post by LeftyMeister on Feb 17, 2024 9:03:03 GMT -5
*Raises hand* I thought boring was a trait to be aspired. |
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Post by Leftee on Feb 17, 2024 10:05:09 GMT -5
I think it’s more about the social aspect rather than the topics. I think they just need the interaction, no matter how inane.
I’m an introvert. I need quiet/alone time to recharge.
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Post by ninworks on Feb 17, 2024 11:56:13 GMT -5
I'm a bit of an introvert myself but learned that the way to keep people from thinking you are boring is to keep asking them questions so they can talk about themselves. You just have to listen and ask relevant questions. I don't consider myself shy. I can converse with just about anyone at any time, but there are times when I don't want to. My wife has been out of town visiting family since last Tuesday and I have been loving it for a change. She's a constant talker and wants me to constantly hold a conversation with her. It's mice to have no pressure to do that and just sit quiet for awhile whenever I want to. I do miss her though. There's only a few questions the dogs will react to and they always have to be the same ones.  |
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Post by Taildragger on Feb 17, 2024 11:57:36 GMT -5
I think the pursuit of activities such as music and the visual arts requires at least some degree of introversion, if only because so much solitary practice is required in order to make progress in either endeavor. A dread of spending time alone would pose a problem in either field.
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Post by Auf Kiltre on Feb 17, 2024 12:07:35 GMT -5
I'm a bit of an introvert myself but learned that the way to keep people from thinking you are boring is to keep asking them questions so they can talk about themselves. You just have to listen and ask relevant questions. My wife is very skilled in that way, always generally interested in people and inquisitive. There can be a downside to that, tho. She can be a bit of a nut magnet. Yeah...I know, she married me.😆 |
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Post by tahitijack on Feb 17, 2024 12:53:45 GMT -5
Always enjoy playing music for others to dance.
As they say I'd rather folks think I might be a pretty good dancer than get on the dance floor and destroy that image.
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Post by Taildragger on Feb 17, 2024 13:09:08 GMT -5
I'll never forget going to the 50th birthday of a friend back when our daughters were in high school. There was live music, so the wife and I went out on the dance floor to "display our moves". Teenage offspring usually come to the conclusion that their parents are way less cool than they used to think at this stage of the game. Our "dancing" did nothing to disabuse the daughters of that notion. I think they felt amused and ashamed in pretty much equal measure.
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Post by Larry Madsen on Feb 17, 2024 13:16:18 GMT -5
Keeping in mind the topic is about “Happy Hour” which usually equates to cheap and readily flowing alcohol …
The social interaction part usually becomes free flowing as well.
Sometime for better and sometimes for worse. 😜
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Post by Leftee on Feb 17, 2024 13:44:02 GMT -5
True!
When I drank (sometimes a lot) I did so at home by myself. The whole happy hour thing was not my scene.
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Post by Auf Kiltre on Feb 17, 2024 15:11:34 GMT -5
I'm not one to seek out the pub socializing but had a stretch of time in the 90s when I found "the one". A microbrewery that attracted beer homebrewers (which I was), musicians and blue/white collar workers to that seedy little corner of Pontiac, MI. It was kind of surreal. I could strike up conversation with a number of different people and find commonality. "OH, you work at...do you know so and so?" or "Oh, you play in such and such band? I know your drummer." A guy struck up a conversation with me while he was having milk jugs filled up with beer like growlers. Turned out he was sort of a blues legend with some notoriety. It was the six degrees of separation whittled down to 2 or 3. Truly a remarkable period and place in time and I was sad when they closed down. Haven't experienced anything like it since.
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Post by markfromhawaii on Feb 17, 2024 15:29:11 GMT -5
I hardly go to many pubs these days. The only time I go - and it’s when my wife tags along - is when my friends are gigging. So it’s usually too noisy to talk until band breaks. And during the breaks, one of our friends will come over and the discussion usually centers around music and gear. 🤣
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Post by Seldom Seen on Feb 17, 2024 18:15:20 GMT -5
In the past I rarely frequented bars but I now find myself in them more often now that I live in rural south Texas; mostly to dance with my wife. I see the same bar sitters at the three local bars as they rotate from one to the other. As a good listener I prefer others to ramble on until I’m forced to tune them out. Hence, one of my favorite sayings:
Some people speak because they have to say something, others because they have something to say.
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